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My Grandfather…A Silent Strength

 

My grandfather, who is known as Papaw, was a man of silent strength.

 

He had so much in life, but he would never tell you that.  His house was big, but you would never know it from looking at it.  The cars he drove were nice, but nothing too showy.  He invested his money well and had a great retirement.  During his retirement he liked to play a lot of golf.  He was also the treasurer at his church, that he attended almost every Sunday with his wife. But the most treasured thing he had was his family.  He had wonderful children, who gave him grandkids (me being one of them!), to which we then gave him great grandkids.

 

Papaw wasn’t much of a hugger, but boy could he find just the right time to poke you.  There was this mischievous smile that would come across his face anytime he was joking with you.  He never hesitated to take a verbal jab when given the opening. I loved joking with him.

 

Something I will always remember about my Papaw is walking into his family room and seeing a football or baseball game on the television.  He liked to keep up with the local teams.  Also, there was never a time when he didn’t ask you how school was going.  Later, when I was working and not in school, he would ask how work was going.  He would inquire as to what exactly I did and if I saw myself staying with the company.  One thing I will remember him saying when I got my first job was to learn everything I possibly could about the company.  That way I would always be ready to move up and take the next step.

 

Papaw loved to tinker around in his basement fixing things.  That came natural, seeing as how he was a civil engineer by trade.  He gave over 30 years to one company!  He did well financially, but like I said you would never know it by looking at him.  You could always catch him wearing his sweater with a button-up shirt underneath.  His slacks and loafers would finish it off.  He was always well groomed.  Papaw took pride in himself, as well as, what he owned.  His yard was also always mowed, raked and he would  weed-eat whenever necessary.  I remember helping him clean leaves out of his gutters and then bagging them up.

 

Down in my parents basement there is a bridge made with popsicle sticks.  Papaw spent a whole day helping me build it.  He did most of the work, but showed me what to do at each stage.  I did the gluing and he would tell me where to put all the sticks.  I took it to school the next day to enter it into the competition.  It held almost 40 lbs. before the middle support gave out.  After I told him how well it did, he started thinking about how we could have made it better.  He was never one to stop thinking.

 

Down in his basement there was a pool table and Ping-Pong table.  That kept my dad, two brothers and me pretty busy.  A lot of times, when my mother’s whole family was together, there was quite a bit of competition in that basement with my grandfather, uncles, dad, brothers, and me playing.  I will miss those days a lot.

 

I recently got a chance to bask in those memories when I went over to my grandparent’s house, where they used to live. The house is still furnished the same way I remembered it.   As I walked through each room I could remember different holidays spent in each one.  I would even stop and stare at a picture or touch something to bring back the memory.  I even opened up the cookie drawer.  I loved everything about that house.  The long hallway, that turned at a 90 degree angle at the end, would leave echoes wherever you walked or talked.  There was one room where I caught the floor on fire, while playing with matches.  Another room was where my Papaw setup his office.  I spent so many days in that house laughing and playing.

 

The most amazing thing I will remember about Papaw is his dedication to his wife, my Mamaw.  He took her golfing, shopping, out to eat, on vacations, and many more places.  He was always there for her, even through her Alzheimer’s.  Once he realized he couldn’t take care of her by himself, he took her to a really nice place where she could have more attention.  He would wake up every morning and drive over to see her for breakfast.  Many times he would spend the day there, so he could help with lunch and dinner.  The ladies who worked there knew my Papaw well.  He would greet each one by name and each would say, “Hi Bill”.  My Papaw cared for his wife deeply and it showed in everything he did for her.  He was a great example of a loving and patient husband.

 

Exactly two years later from when my Mamaw passed away, so did my Papaw.  He loved his wife very much and is now with her in Heaven.  I, too, will miss Papaw very much, but I know I will see him again one day.

 

His silent strength will be missed, but never forgotten

 

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The Number One Requirement for Achieving Success

Everyone is looking for the secret to achieving their dreams.  The one idea or act that will help them conquer all their obstacles.  Well, there is a “secret” that everyone knows, but not everyone practices.

It’s called Selling.

If you can’t sell yourself on getting out of bed, then you will miss out on life.  If you can’t sell yourself on losing weight, then you will always be out of shape.  If you can’t sell your boss on getting a raise, then you will be in the same financial situation as the year before.

Everything in life requires selling.  Everything.

Selling is an art.  To sell well, requires constant focus.  Just like losing weight or anything worth achieving in life, you have to be willing to do the work.  Too many people live life like a lottery game.  They are just hoping that one day everything will come together.  Well…life doesn’t work like that.  If you are hoping that things will change, then you have to be willing to change them.  Take control of your life.

Selling is used everyday by children, who are looking to get something from their parents.  Selling is used by doctors, who have to convince their patients to get better.  Selling is used by teachers who have to persuade their students to do their homework or study for a test.  We are selling ourselves everyday in everything we do.

If you want to offer life more, then learn the art of selling, persuading, convincing or whatever other word you want to call it.  Selling will always be a part of our lives.  We just have to realize it and know how to use it.

How Great Managers Succeed – by Brad Rhame

Good mangers manage processes, while Great managers lead people.  I have a saying I like to throw around and that is, “Companies(buildings) don’t run themselves.”  It takes people working together to build a great company.  People can make or break a business…daily.

 

Have you ever arrived at where you were going, when you never had a destination in the first place?  What about getting to that same place, for the first time, without a map?  That is precisely why companies have vision and mission statements.  They also have an assortment of goals that keep them on the road(mission) to success(vision).

 

Those things are definitely needed for a company to become great.  It is also highly recommended that current and potential clients be given first class treatment.  You want them coming back and they are your biggest advertisers.

 

It is great to want to put the customers/clients first, but if your team is not happy, then you are not growing(in a healthy way).  Sure, a company can grow, but the turnover will be higher, if the employees are not put first.  Happy employees make for happier customers.

 

As a manager you need to control the processes, while tactfully leading your employees.  They need to know you have their back, or a time will come when you need them to have yours and they will not be there.  Employees are like plants that need to be nurtured.  They also need breathing room and the ability to grow.  Some need more attention than others.  There needs to be a balance of positive feedback and constructive criticism.

 

There are some employees that are like loyal dogs.  You can beat them daily and they keep coming back.  Sometimes it is because the money is too good and other times it is because they cannot get another job…right now.  The days of “old school” management are over.  People want to be treated better than fair, whether customer or employee.

 

If you want to have a chance at becoming great, then you have to be great to those that work under you.  Remember their birthdays.  Throw them “thank you” lunches or parties.  Have an “employee of the week” award.  Walk by and shake their hand for a job well done.  Thank them for a great idea.  Admit when you are wrong.  Laugh, or at the very least, smile more.  BUT…more than anything, show them you care.  And before you know it, you will have a company on its way to becoming great!

 

Best of luck!!

And like Zig Ziglar used to say, “I’ll see you at the top!”

 

 

38 Years Ago on This Day…

It was thirty-eight years ago on this day, that into this world I made my way (With a little help).  Born into a family I did not know, only to be loved so I would not go.  They gave me two brothers who beat me in sports, for which later I beat them to which neither reports.  I cannot complain about my life, for which there has been more blessing than strife.  I have met some wonderful people on this road, who have definitely lightened up my load.  The one beautiful friend who said, “I do” amazed me even more by giving me two.  These sons, who look to me as their hero, bring joy to my life when I feel like a zero.  And to end this story, I want to thank the One, who saved me long ago through His Son.  Without Him I would not be as strong and without Him this poem would not be as long.  🙂

 

Thank you to all who took part in this day of wishing me a very happy birthday.

 

May each and every one of you know that you are remembered.

 

Thank you for allowing me to be part of your life.

 

Brad

Fighting Greatness – by Brad Rhame

What is one of the first things we do when we get out of bed? Yes…we head towards the bathroom, but what is one of the main things we do once we are in the bathroom? It has to do with a mirror. Yes, that’s right. We look at ourselves. And why do you suppose that is? Are we hoping to have perfect hair? What about sleep lines from our pillows? Are we hoping those don’t show up?

I think the answer lies much deeper and truer than those questions ask. I think we are hoping to see someone amazing. We are hoping that today picks up where yesterday left off (if yesterday was a great day). Or we are hoping that today is completely different and altogether better. Either way, we want today to be great. And most likely we want to be a factor in its greatness.

Whether we admit it or not, each of us wants to be great. We want to know our lives matter or make a difference. Life has a way of bringing us back to an all too common reality. My question though is this, “Is reality real?” If we wake up everyday hoping today is the day where we succeed, win, achieve more or whatever your goal might be, then doesn’t it make sense that we were made for more…?

Why do some people impact the world at such a young age and others do not? Could it be our drive? I wouldn’t put money on that one. What about our personality type? Maybe, but I would hold out for something else.

If I had to take an educated guess I would say passion. And then, what is our “Why”. If you believe in something with every fiber of your being and have a reason for it coming to fruition, then and only then can you make it happen. Nothing happens without action. Where there is no belief and action…dreams do not become reality.

Bruce Lee changed martial arts forever, because of his belief in a better fighting philosophy. Jesus Christ changed the world, because of his love for humanity. Both died before they saw the age of 35! There is still time for you to realize your dreams and become the person you were created to be.

From now on, when you get out of bed trust yourself to who you want to be and not who you might currently think you are. Surround yourself with positive people. Read books and magazines that inspire you. Keep learning and growing. Always be a student and self educate yourself. Exercise your body and brain. Create something new. Go somewhere new. Try something new.

But most of all…Stop fighting your current fear of greatness and who you were really meant to be. Dare yourself to fail. Learn from your mistakes and press on. We are waiting for you to change the world!

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Own it – by Darren Hardy

Let’s face it, there are going to be those times when it feels like your world is turned upside down. Or things go haywire. Or you’re simply having a bad day (or week, or month, or even year!) Well, I’m here for you and here’s what I want YOU to do about it:

via Own it.

Why Falling is Good for You – by Darren Hardy

As your mentor I want you to remember this… You will get knocked down. Know that it’s okay. It’s okay that it hurts a bit, too. Let me share with you my own experience of getting knocked down:

via Why Falling is Good for You.

Stay and Change It – by Stuart M. Perkins

Stay and Change It.

Baby Steps to Success – by Brad Rhame

Life is about baby steps.  So many of us never do anything, because we are “All or nothing” people.  That is one of the worst kinds of thinking we could nurture.  If you decided to do 365 pushups in one year, then wouldn’t it be easier to do 1 a day instead of 91 over four days?  I know…plus one more, but you get the point.  It is easier to get in shape slowly and over time, than it is quickly.

 

Whenever we go “all or nothing,” it doesn’t take long to go back to doing nothing after doing it all.  It is too much stress on the body and brain.  We get pumped up about achieving something great, but do not take the time to think it through, over the long haul.  We start psychologically breaking down.  We start to realize that it is impossible to keep this kind of energy going.  Then….as soon as we mess up a couple times or slack off…we Quit.  Possibly, never to return or at least not for a long time.

 

If you want to be a great writer, then you have to start with a sentence.  Then a paragraph.  Then a page. A chapter…and finally a book.  Work on writing one great sentence each day you wake up.  After a week or a month, move on to writing a paragraph each day.  Slowly but surely you will have your book.

 

The same philosophy goes for anything you want to do in life.  Baby steps will get you to where you want to be.  If you don’t believe me, then watch the movie What About Bob.  A funny movie, but it changed the way I looked at life and achieving success.  Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither is your success.

 

Think small and grow big!

 

Brad Rhame

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