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The purpose of fear.

Many people do not attempt jobs, hobbies, meeting new people, or speaking in front of others because of fear.

What is fear?

Is is False Evidence Appearing Real? Is it real at all or is is completely made up?

Life if full of decisions. Everyday we make decisions based on previous knowledge. The direction we choose to drive to work. The way we put our clothes on. The breakfast we eat every morning.

Decisions make up our reality. Do we choose to switch lanes or do we continue to sit behind the same vehicle going the same speed, for possibly the next five to twenty-five minutes?

Do we try something new on at the store and really impress our coworkers the next day?

Should we take a chance on a different job description? Should we endure more stress for more money? Should we move into leadership?

Is there part of our past that is disrupting our present and future? Are we focused on the wrong outcomes?

These are questions that need to be answered almost every day. Some of them come with little effort and others are overwhelming for us.

The key is to relocate your focus. In order to have fear we have to focus on something that reminds us of pain. A pain we do not want to feel again. So, the reverse of that is to focus on something that brings us happiness and hope. We need to see the good in others. We need to see the good in events that happen “for us” and not “to us”.

If we can switch our focus to the good and what brings us joy, then we can have a more prosperous life. One that brings complete satisfaction. One that brings us into our true selves. Everyone of us can think of a time that we finally broke out of our comfort zone, no matter how big or small, and had a warming sensation come over us for doing so. We look back and think…”Wow, I am so glad I did that!”

If you can go back to that moment every time you have to make what seems like a fearful decision, then you will more times than not go for it. You will choose the path less traveled. You will experience new heights and sometimes new lows, but all of it will be worth it. The reason why is because you took a chance. You stepped up to this life you were given and said, “I will make the most of it.”

So, the next time you come to a cross roads don’t think twice. Instantly turn to the good feelings you have had in the past and let them guide you to your full destiny. Your future self will be glad you did.

I promise!

Watch as Gary Vaynerchuk teaches you how to mass produce your content

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This flip chart, that Gary V and his team put together, might be the best content I have seen in awhile! Pull out your notebook and get ready to take some notes. You will not be disappointed. I call this…”Simple, yet Profound”

What it means to be a MOM

What it means to be a mom is hard to put into a short writing.  Mothers are an amazing gift from God to all the children that they touch.  Sometimes we think that being a mom means you must have your own children, but that it just not true.

How many of us can remember a special woman or teacher who gave us the love and attention we needed?  I could name so many ladies who helped raise me.  Women who were either part of our family or close friends with it.  I even have a couple of past teachers who have touched my life in a motherly way.

All men know they have no idea what it means to think like a woman.  I can confidently say that we don’t even have the capacity to do what women can.  I wish I could remember where I heard it, but there was a great word-picture put into my head a long time ago about the difference between men and women.  When comparing us to computers, men have one screen open at a time and women have multiple screens going all at the same time!  This also explains why they can switch from one subject to another so quickly, while driving men crazy!!

I watched my mom growing up and all she did and went through to keep our house a home.  Keeping up with the baseball, basketball, football, and whatever else we could find to join and participate in was a true accomplishment. “Soccer Moms” are Super Moms!  Many women work outside the home and then still find time to come home, cook, clean, pickup their kids, help with homework…AND do so much more.

All these years later, I now watch how my mom and all her female friends and family have achieved so much.  It brings me great pride to see the tenacity and perseverance shown by every woman and mom out there.  I also see this in my own home with my wife who stays home and homeschools our two boys.  Teaching is a full-time job and then having to find time to clean and work on personal hobbies is almost more than I can comprehend.

I love watching two women on similar life paths talk about their days.  You can see it in their eyes that they “get” one another.  They know exactly what the other is going through and it brings a sense of peace to know they aren’t the only ones.  God knew that men could raise children, but that they just weren’t made to handle everything women can.

I have so much respect for my wife, Anne.  She is constantly homeschooling our two boys and then finds time to have dinner ready when I come home from work.  She has clothes washing and drying, the dishwasher going, while at the same time trying to keep two growing boys from tearing up the house.  Then when the night calms down and the boys are off to bed, she finds time to pull out her painting business and work on some new projects.  I get tired just thinking off all she does!  AND…to top it off, she looks amazing at the end of the night after all of that!

Moms are such a magnificent whirlwind of beauty.  So many have to be away from their children for long periods of time, while others never seem to get any time away.  The ability to nurture at home and be professional in the world is absolutely astonishing!

There are numerous days that I don’t thank my wife and my mom for everything they do and have done for our families.  These two women are a couple of the most amazing ladies with whom I have had the opportunity to share my life.  I could not end this without mentioning my mother-in-law who is also an amazing woman!  After losing her husband to a long fight with cancer, she went back to school, got a degree, entered the workforce for the first time and has done amazingly well!  She is one of the loveliest ladies I know.

I am blessed to be able to write this and even more blessed to have gotten to share in the amazing stories of all the women who have come into my life.  Thank you, each one of you, for caring for me and showing me unconditional kindness…especially when I did not deserve it!

If you have or know of a special woman in your life please tell her how special she is and what an amazing job she is doing.

And that is what it means to be a mom!

 

 

Sales, Stories, and Car Accidents – by Brad Rhame

My entire “driving” life I have always wondered why people feel the need to slow down, when driving past an accident.  I mean, they see stuff like this or worse on TV…right?!  Well, it finally made sense to me over twenty years later.

 

I was driving home last night and came to find out that I couldn’t even pull down my street, because there was a car that had crashed into a telephone pole and knocked down a power line.  My family was outside watching everything happen and so I joined them.  We were like bugs attracted to a light.  With all the ambulance, police and fire department lights, we were all amazed at what was going on.

 

As I was standing there watching this event unfold, I realized I was like one of “those people” who would slow down at an accident to see what was going on.  Then, I remembered a YouTube video that I had watched a couple days earlier, by Christine Clifford.  She was talking about selling to people through the use of stories.  Her main point was to use your story to get people interested in your product or service.

 

This all made sense as we were standing there at the car accident site.  We were wanting to know the story of what happened.  This required us to pay attention to the details, through our eyes and ears.  When we finally had most of the details, we were able to put the story together for others to hear.

 

That is why we go and see movies, read books, and listen to music.  We want a story told to us.  People love stories and some love telling those stories.  Think of how people gather around to hear others tell an amazing event that happened to them.  That is why it is so important to be a good story teller.

 

Those who can master the art of story telling can transfer that into their sales presentations.  By capturing a client’s attention, through the art of story telling, we can give them a better idea of how our product or service works.  So, if you want to become great at sales, then you need to master the art of telling a good story…your story.

 

There is one nice thing that this revelation has done for me twenty years later.  I won’t become frustrated anymore at people, in traffic, who slow down to watch an accident.  They are just looking for a story to tell.

 

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Love

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“Love in a Scriptural sense is not a soft, sentimental emotion. It is a deliberate act of my will. It means that I am willing to lay down my life, lay myself out, put myself out on behalf of another.”

Phillip Keller

There is no more important concept in the Bible than love. The Bible cannot be properly understood unless we first understand that every teaching, every principle, and every application of the Scriptures must be filtered through the lens of love.

Matthew 22:34-40 – In this passage Jesus explains that the most important commandment in the Scriptures is to love God with all your heart, mind, soul and strength, and then to love people as yourself. When saying that all the law and the prophets hang on these 2 commandments Jesus was no doubt alluding to the cross. Jesus hung on a tree in a perfect demonstration of love. Jesus loved…

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My Grandfather…A Silent Strength

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The Holy Spirit

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While we commonly acknowledge that Jesus is God, we don’t often think of the Holy Spirit as God. He (not it) is the third person of the Trinity and the bridge between the spiritual world and the physical world.

One of the most significant differences between the Old Testament and the New Testament is the functioning of the Holy Spirit. In Old Testament times God’s presence was with men but it was outward. While this has not changed, in the New Testament He is also present in man. We can receive the Lord!

 

To them God has chosen to make known among the Gentiles the glorious riches of this mystery, which is Christ in you, the hope of glory.

Colossians 1:27

John 14:15-20 – In this passage Jesus refers to the Holy Spirit as “another Helper” which means there was a first Helper which was Jesus Himself…

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The Number One Requirement for Achieving Success

Everyone is looking for the secret to achieving their dreams.  The one idea or act that will help them conquer all their obstacles.  Well, there is a “secret” that everyone knows, but not everyone practices.

It’s called Selling.

If you can’t sell yourself on getting out of bed, then you will miss out on life.  If you can’t sell yourself on losing weight, then you will always be out of shape.  If you can’t sell your boss on getting a raise, then you will be in the same financial situation as the year before.

Everything in life requires selling.  Everything.

Selling is an art.  To sell well, requires constant focus.  Just like losing weight or anything worth achieving in life, you have to be willing to do the work.  Too many people live life like a lottery game.  They are just hoping that one day everything will come together.  Well…life doesn’t work like that.  If you are hoping that things will change, then you have to be willing to change them.  Take control of your life.

Selling is used everyday by children, who are looking to get something from their parents.  Selling is used by doctors, who have to convince their patients to get better.  Selling is used by teachers who have to persuade their students to do their homework or study for a test.  We are selling ourselves everyday in everything we do.

If you want to offer life more, then learn the art of selling, persuading, convincing or whatever other word you want to call it.  Selling will always be a part of our lives.  We just have to realize it and know how to use it.

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