Brad Rhame

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Lessons Learned (Part 4)

When I left the retail industry, I moved on to horses and hard work!

While I was finishing my senior year in high school, I started working on a ranch. I had so many experiences on that ranch that they still play a part in my life today.

When I first started on the ranch, the job was only after school for an hour or so.  Then, once summer came, I was working full time and really enjoyed it.  I learned a lot about hard work and doing things that I had never done before.  That summer the temperature got as high as 110 degrees, in the shade!  I wore boots, jeans, a t-shirt and a cowboy hat.  I got to see newborn calves born and weaned from their moms.  Building fence was quite the experience, too. There were acres of fence to build! 

One thing I learned was how to take instruction from the ranch hand.  He grew up on a farm and knew what it was like to take care of horses, build fence and make sure everything ran smoothly.  His name was Craig and there was a reason behind everything he did. He was also a great dad and husband.  Occasionally, I got to see him interact with his family, when they would come onto the ranch.  We had some good laughs, as well as some serious teachable moments. 

Once, when his son was just a young boy and wouldn’t stop talking, I bet his son that he couldn’t be quiet for five minutes.  Well, he did it and I had to pay up.  That was my second thing I learned. It is always better to keep your word and be known for what you say you will do. His son started trying to make more bets with me, but I knew better than to make that mistake again!

The owner of the ranch was a family friend and I am fortunate that my parents knew him. He made good money at a lumber company that he owned, and I always thought it would be neat to own my own company and do well in life.  He was also a very giving man and generous to others. Having nice things is great, and there is nothing wrong with it, but one just can’t make it the sole purpose of living this life. If you are going to make good money, then you need to show others how to use it properly.

In life there are many things you can spend your money on, but none of them compare to educating yourself. I’m not necessarily talking about formal education and college. Although, those are beneficial. What I am really speaking about is finding hobbies and passions that drive you. Spend time learning more about them from books, videos, mentors and even weekend classes.

When we are young, we may find that school is boring or not for us. In reality, it is teaching us how to learn, so we can take that knowledge of how to learn and apply it towards what we truly want to do in life. Learning how to take instruction and apply what you learn to your life is of the utmost importance. When we are not afraid of learning new skills, ideas or ways of life, we will run towards educating ourselves and pursuing our dreams.

Andy when we couple learning with hard work, we will find that our worlds will change drastically and for the better!

Remember…life is short. Don’t wait to do what you want to do or you will have less time to do it.

Life Lesson:

Learn how to learn and don’t be afraid of hard work.

Family – by Brad Rhame

When you hear the word “Family” what images or thoughts are brought to mind?

 

Everyone has experienced “Family” in different ways.  Some of us have come from big traditional families and others of us have come from small non-traditional families.  We may be related by blood, contract or love.  Each of us have a different idea of what a family is.  Even brothers and sisters, who have grown up in the same family, can have differing opinions of what a family constitutes.

 

No matter what someone else thinks a family is, you know what it is to you.  The point I want to drive home is that when you make up your mind of what a family looks like, then spend the rest of your life designing your family to the best of your abilities.   Put everything you have into it.

 

Will there be times when that perfect picture cracks, splits, or even brakes?  Yes.  That does not mean it is over.  Anything in life that could be beautiful is worth going after.  Worth building…Worth rebuilding.  I would really like to tell you to just put more love into it, but we all know what that means….   Absolutely different things to everyone.   Love…more than a feeling…is really an action.

 

I can attest to that and I am sure many of you can too.  There are times, days, weeks and even months where we do not “feel” love.  Love is an action and every time we decide to do something for someone, because it is the right thing, then we are putting love into action.  By showing or doing love, we are that much closer do designing the family we want.

 

You can’t lose weight by sitting in a chair and eating your favorite foods in large consumptions.  You can’t have your dream job, if you don’t put in an application and develop the skills needed.  You can’t write your first book, by watching videos, reading how-to-books, and buying blank journals, only to watch the blank journals pile up, beside the books and videos.  Wishing and dreaming are fun, but they don’t get anything accomplished without action.

 

Family falls into that same thought process.  We have to continually work…and I mean WORK…at what we want to come from our family.  Life will throw you lemons, curve balls, and straight crap, but we have to know it is coming and react to it with a prepared mind.  Easier said than done?  Absolutely!  Life is not about “Easy”.  Life is about “Learning”.  Learn from your mistakes.  Learn from others’ mistakes.  Learn from your successes, as well as, others’ too.  Then, pass those same thoughts, morals, and traditions onto those you love…your family.  And watch how they respond and possibly even change it as they grow.

 

Whatever you do, just don’t forget to be there for your family.  When everyone else is gone and the toys have lost their appeal, just remember that your family is there waiting for you.

 

Love to Live and Learn to Laugh….and in the middle you have Live and Learn

 

Brad Rhame

What Is Your Life Motto? – by Brad Rhame

What is your life motto?

Why is it important to have a life motto?  Well, let’s first think about companies.  Do they have vision statements? Yes.  Do they have mission statements?  Yes.  Do they have strategic plans, operational plans, tactical plans?  Yes.  And why is this?  Because they need a plan of attack and a way to keep themselves on track.  Every time they think about a new product, service, or advertisement they have to ask if it lines up with who they are and where they are going.

The same holds true for your personal life.  Who do you want to be?  Where do you want to go?  How do you want to get there?  This can all be answered in a personal life motto that you live out every day.  It keeps you on track and thinking along the right lines.

My life motto is “Love to Live and Learn to Laugh”

That statement has 7 different meanings to me.  Can you find them?  Well, if not let me briefly point them out.

1. Love – The New Oxford American Dictionary defines it, “an intense feeling of deep affection”

2. Live – Do the vital requirements to stay alive

3. Learn – That same dictionary defines it, “gain or acquire knowledge of a skill in (something) by study, experience, or being taught; commit to memory.”

4. Laugh – Let life be enjoyable and laugh about it

5. Love to Live – Which means to really be excited about your life and what you get to do with it.  You never know when the ride stops

6. Learn to Laugh – Life can be embarrassing sometimes and you have to laugh it off or laugh at yourself.  Others will appreciate you for it

7. Live and Learn – Realize that your failure is a chance to do better the next time

Those are extremely short definitions of each one of those words and phrases.  Each one of those has so much meaning behind them, that I could go on all day about each.  That is what you have to do with a life motto.  It needs to be simple, memorable, and point you to what you want in life.

By coming up with a life motto (and it may change) you are taking the first step in creating the life you always wanted.  Wake up every day and recite it.  Put yourself in the right frame of mind, at the beginning of the day, and you will be amazed at your success.  So, let me ask you again…What is your life motto?

Brad Rhame

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